Wednesday, November 28, 2012

my interview with the coolest 13 year old ever

  • Last winter I was lucky enough to meet the coolest 13 year old ever. I trekked all the way down from Philadelphia to North Carolina to hang out with Chanelle for a little after we had graduated NYU. I had met Chanelle's best friend, Beth, a few times before and absolutely adored her. (she writes an awesome blog that you can read here) But what I didn't know was that Beth seriously has the funniest, coolest little sister ever, Ashley! Ashley was awesome enough to agree to let me interview her for my blog and I'm so glad she did. 13 year olds are awesome and we can learn a lot from them so next time you're about to roll your eyes at a tween, THINK AGAIN YA BIG LUG. 

    TGG= The Good Girl

    AB= Ashley

    TGG: ASHLEY! Thank you so much for doing this! 

    AB: Sure!

    TGG: Awesome. First question. What is it like to be 13 years old in 2012?

    AB: Uhm, it's okay. Sometimes it can be tough because the economy isn't its best these days haha. 

    TGG: Amen sistah! I heard that.

    AB: Yupp. :)

    TGG: If you could say anything to your 8 year old self, what would it be?

    AB: You have a rude of an awakening. lol and I would encourage myself to stay strong because I'm just now experiencing the real many ways.

    TGG: Yeah it's crazy how we look back and realize how easy we had it! If you could pick any person in the world to take you on a date, who would it be and what would you do?

    AB: Can it be a celebrity haha?

    TGG: Of course!

    AB: Greattt! Okay, I would pick Aaron Carter and I would like to go to putt putt with him. <3

    TGG: You don't mind the age difference?

    AB: Uhm okay that might be a little creepy lol. Austin Mahone and putt putt.

    TGG: Haha, nice. I take it you're not a Belieber then? No fancy date with Justin?

    AB: Noooooo! I only like a couple of his songs, NOT him haha.

    TGG: Haha awesome. If you had to be stuck on an island with one member of One Direction, who would it be and why?

    AB: Liam because he is brunette and has brown eyes and seems the cleanest of them all and seems to have a funny personality.

    TGG: Cleanliness is important. What is a message you wish you could tell every girl your age?

    AB: Stay strong! Don't give up! Work hard/play hard. Don't do bad things until marriage. Haha, JK.

    TGG: YES, that is the best. Hey, I agree. So I know you're a huge Britney Spears fan right?

    AB: Yes!

    TGG: What is your favorite Britney song? And which stage of Britney's is your favorite?

    AB: Well, I like a lot of her songs but I like 'Piece of Me' and 'Til the World Ends' would be my top two probably. And my favorite stage of Britney I would say would be the new because she has come to a fresh start, haha. 

    TGG: Yes! I love it. What's something about boys that really annoys you?

    AB: They have no enthusiasm when they text you and they get ticked off easily. They also take foreverrrrr to make a move, like talking to you or making conversations.

    TGG: Preach!!! Well, on the other side of that, what's something you appreciate about boys?

    AB: You do find guys that are gentlemen, but that's rare haha. When you do find a halfway decent guy though, they're really nice....and though it may take awhile for them to actually make conversations with you, once you get to know them you start believing there are good guys out there...I guess they just need to come out of their shell haha...cheezy. 

    TGG: No it's true!! Gotta keep the faith. If you could spend a day with any dead person, who would it be and what would you do?

    AB: It would have to be my grandma. And we used to go to the mall together so I think that would be a good place. 

    TGG: Ashley that is so beautiful and sweet! Thank you for sharing that with me! What is something you wish boys knew about girls that would make life so much easier?

    AB: A girl's' feelings are really touchy. Of course I've never been cheated on because I'm only 13, haha. But they don't realize how much it can hurt a girl...I've just seen those things from my perspective.

    TGG: Wise, I like it.

    AB: Thanks!

    TGG: What do you hope to accomplish in your lifetime?

    AB: To succeed in the entertainment industry lol. I really like acting and dancing.

    TGG: Would you rather give birth to a bunch of kittens or find out you're pregnant with a vampire, like Bella was?


    TGG: That's my girl!!! Alright, two more questions.

    AB: Sounds good!

    TGG: If you could change one thing about America, what would it be?

    AB: To be treated equally and keep everything the way God made things.

    TGG: Final question. Where do you see yourself in 10 years, when you're 23?

    AB: Famous and smart if I keep trying.

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    Special thanks to Beth for being a cool older sister & Ashley for answering all my questions honestly! 
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Friday, November 23, 2012

the morning after

.....THANKSGIVING!!! Get your mind out of the gutter ya big lugs!!!!!!!!

I woke up this morning in the after-bliss of a food hangover. Hazy memories of a bacon turkey, mashed potatoes, homemade stuffing and pumpkin pie filtered through my clouded mind and I felt content. And I waited. I paused and I waited and immediately a string of complaints flew through my mind.

I feel fat.
The sun is like, SUPER bright.
Ugh, what do I have to do today?
I should clean, I hate cleaning.

And then I stopped. I scrunched my eyes up tight and pulled the covers over my head and breathed deeply. And I prayed just a simple little prayer, nothing out of the ordinary or grandiose - none of that kneeling by my bed, hands clasped tight, eyes even tighter, praying deep into the night. (not that I never do that, there's nothing wrong with that, this was just a little different prayer).

Lord, help me feel thankful. 

One simple prayer that holds a lot more than five words. Lord, help me feel thankful.....STILL. I should've added that word there on the end. Still.


Yesterday we all gathered around tables with people we love, people we care enough about to spend a holiday with. Maybe we held hands, maybe we bowed our heads together and said Grace and thanked God for the food and prayed for all of those without meals. Maybe we felt safe and warm and maybe a little warm buzz from some wine or cider. 

Maybe we watched "It's A Wonderful Life" and cried because George Bailey is both the kind of person we want to become and the kind of person we want to spend the rest of our lives with.

And then maybe we drove home with our roommates or our wives or husbands or boyfriends or girlfriends or alone. Maybe we climbed drowsily into bed and fell into a deep, deep food coma. (thosethingsexistidontcarewhatyousay).

And then we wake up today. And it's Black Friday, the day when people literally claw out each other's eyeballs to get stuff. I'm not saying if you go Black Friday shopping you are an idiot or a materialistic pig. I'm just saying I don't get it and I'll probably never, ever do it. You do you, I'ma do me.

Today some of us forget yesterday and this whole theme of being "thankful." I sure as hell did the minute I woke up this morning. Thankfulness wasn't even really on my mind. God wasn't on my mind immediately. STUFF was on my mind immediately. Always stuffstuffstuff. 

But I want to practice Thanksgiving every day and not just on some Thursday in November. I want to be thankful! And I KNOW! Okay, I know this is a cliche sentiment and we all say this every single year and then it fades and we just shrug our shoulders.

But we have to say this - we have to think this. If I stop saying it, if I stop praying about it and asking God to help me be thankful, well...then what? I just stop being thankful? I stop working towards thinking differently, thinking better, healthier? I don't want to continue everyday just "waiting" until I miraculously feel thankful all of a sudden. And I know it's a process and that's exactly why I think we have to be active about it. 

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When I go running, I run to the water. It's 3.5 miles to the ocean's edge, and 3.5 miles back to my apartment. I don't run these 7 miles every day, but sometimes I'm feeling a long run and I pass on my usual 4 or 5 miles around my neighborhood and I run straight to the water. I feel my legs carrying me every step - feel the rhythm they beat on the pavement. I feel the sweat on my face and the sun beating against my back and I imagine what my lungs look like as the help me breathe in and out in and out in and out. 

When I get to the water I stop. I let the Santa Monica breeze play with my unruly hair and I listen as people pass by me jogging, walking their dogs, talking to their friends about their days. But I look at the water. I ask God, "Why me? Why do I get to live here? Why do I get this kind of life?" I think of all of the decisions we make and how they lead us to where we are. And um, IT'S FREAKING BIZARRE? Do you ever just sit there and think for a second where you are RIGHT NOW IN LIFE AND HOW CRAZY IT IS THAT SOMEHOW THE UNIVERSE BROUGHT YOU TO THAT EXACT MOMENT?


When I go running, my mind clears. Sometimes I pretend I'm in a movie montage, because who doesn't do that every so often? But mostly I run and I think until my mind is actually clear. It's so easy to dissect ourselves and our lives. It happens to me constantly - the minute I leave a party or hanging out with friends, I scrutinize my every move. I think, "Was I too loud? Was I too obnoxious? Did I say 'ya big lug' just one too many times? Should I NOT have started dancing like an old man which I call my 'creepy old man dance' and sometimes people don't appreciate it?!!!!!" We freak ourselves out with OURSELVES. We can't do that anymore. We need to sit back and think,

I am worthy.

I am not perfect. I am flawed.

I am God's creation. 

I am thankful. 

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Thursday, November 22, 2012

OH HAPPY DAY (short little thanksgiving post GOBBLE GOBBLE)

This time last year Chanelle and I were sharing a janky studio apartment on a sketchy street in West LA. We both didn't have cars. Well Chanelle did have a possessed one that was evil and out to get us and was basically the Voldemort of cars, but we like to pretend that didn't happen. 

This time last year I was working two jobs, one at a restaurant and one in retail. We didn't have a group of friends yet. I didn't have a bed or a proper refrigerator and I was so homesick it made my head spin.

I look back on all that has changed since last Thanksgiving and I am really, truly, genuinely amazed. I don't care if it's cliche to write about what we are thankful for on Thanksgiving, but it's true. I simply sit back and I'm amazed at all that has happened. And I am so excited for what God has planned ahead.

The thing is, gratitude and thankfulness don't come naturally. Greed, dissatisfaction, anger, impatience, gossip - THESE things come naturally to me. In fact they're pretty easy to dwell on and sit on and let consume me. It is an active process to feel thankful and grateful and to keep that mindset. To wake up and think, "God, THANK YOU. I fall to my knees and praise YOU!"

Instead I usually wake up and think, "I'm hungry. I wish I made more money. Wish my apartment was nicer. Wish I was skinnier. Wish wish wish wish WANT WANT WANT." It is EXHAUSTING. 

So this Thanksgiving I am so grateful for all that God has done in my life and I look forward to where He is always taking me. I am thankful that He sent His one and only son to die on a cross for me and the whole wide world. I am thankful for my family. Chanelle. Friends, old and new. For the sunny Los Angeles sky, for the ocean. For decaf coffee. For those moments when an amazing song comes on in my car and I blast it as loud as I want. Christmas music. Food. Love. Laughter. 

So let's give some Thanks for once. It's kind of counter-cultural and awesome and so much better than thinking of all the things we want and wish we could have. Let's forget about Black Friday and just enjoy what we are so blessed to have. 

Random Thanksgiving thought: Do you think a baby turkey is cute Y or N and do you think I could maybe cuddle with one?


love ya ya big lugz. EAT YO TOIKEY

Thursday, November 15, 2012

4 happy movies i love that have disturbing plot holes

While brushing my teeth the other day after work, I was hit with a sudden realization: there are so many movies I love that have severe plot holes that are simply too hard to ignore. I don't know what about brushing my teeth made me think of this, but I know it led me to a series of thoughts as I got ready to go out that I just couldn't let go! So I decided to do what any other person would do; self-indulge and BLOG about it!

The Parent Trap

For my 9th birthday I brought some of my best friends to the movies and we went to see Lindsay Lohan pre-breakdown in The Parent Trap. This movie was every little girl's dream - who DIDN'T want to go to summer camp after seeing that movie? Who DIDN'T want a twin with a cool accent? And you're a liar if you didn't try oreo cookies and peanut butter after watching Lindsay 1 and Lindsay 2 nom on them. Ugh. Add in Dennis Quaid and Natasha Richardson (RIP), some tar, some feathers, and you've got me. But you know what's REALLY disturbing about this film? The fact that when Hallie & Annie's parents divorced, they each took one baby. LIKE, THEY EACH JUST DECIDED THEY WERE FINE NEVER KNOWING THEIR OTHER CHILD? 


Okay if I was 11 and I found out my mom never wanted to know me at all, I wouldn't gaze at her all lovingly when she's designing wedding dresses. I'd probably cry in the fetal position and realize that's where all of my inner issues stemmed from, like why I eat my emotions and have thick eyebrows because no one ever told me how to pluck them. COME ON PEOPLE. It's freaking messed up! It's just not right! 

She's The Man

Oh Amanda Bynes. Poor, poor Amanda Bynes. Is there a trend happening with these movies and their wayward starlets? I love me some Amanda Bynes. The first time I rented "She's the Man" I literally watched it five times and peed from laughter. Then I sat there in my pee and wondered where my life was going....but no, seriously, if you don't like this movie then I have trouble trusting you. It's so great and cheesy and Channing Tatum is well, shirtless for most of it so that's a plus. Anyway, I digress.

Chanelle and I always talk about how disturbed we'd be if we were Olivia. I know this movie is based off of Shakespeare's "Twelfth Night" but I still can't ignore that if it turned out the guy I tried to make out with and fell in love with was actually a girl....ummm, I wouldn't just be able to get over it in a second. I'd be a little weirded out. ALSO! Like, HELLO Viola is totally just a rebound for Duke. Like, he straight up ditched her for Olivia, then finds out Sebastian is a girl, and is like ummmm I like you? Did you have as much trouble understanding those last few sentences as I had typing them out? Good, we're all golden.

Beauty and the Beast

She falls in love with an animal. 'Nuff said. And it's not just any animal. It's not like it's Simba who is pretty cute in that halfway teenage stage in "Hakuna Matata" or a beautiful horse or something. IT'S A FREAKING BEAST. LIKE, AN OVERGROWN DOG THAT HAS BAD HAIR AND ANGER ISSUES. ALSO, um BELLE, even when you're singing "Something There" and it's snowing and you and Beast are having a snowball fight and exchanging flirty, creepy glances...YOU'RE STILL HIS PRISONER. AHHH!!!

Beauty and the Beast is my favorite Disney movie, hands down. I relate to Belle. She's a bookworm. She's gorgeous....we're basically the same person. JUST KIDDING. But seriously, sometimes I sit there and think how creepy and weird it is Belle loves a beast and not even a cuddly one but one that keeps her prisoner. Yikes.

Never Been Kissed

First you need to understand how much I love this movie. Next you need to understand HOW REALLY MESSED UP THIS MOVIE IS. And I'll explain why; Mr. Coulson (played by the super-sexy Michael Vartan) is a high school English teacher. Josie Gellar (played by the stupidly adorable Drew Barrymore) is a dumpy, aspiring journalist who goes undercover back to high school to find a great story. Mr. Coulson ends up falling in love with Josie and it's literally the most amaze-ball movie kiss of all time (which you can read about more detail because I blogged about it in the best movie kisses of all time) but what the movie lacks to address is the fact that MR. COULSON FELL IN LOVE WITH WHO HE THOUGHT WAS A 17/18 YEAR OLD HIGH SCHOOL STUDENT. Um, GROSS? Um, STILL WONDERFUL? We don't even care as an audience because we love them so much. That scene on the ferris wheel? Don't EVEN get me STARTED. But hey, it is all a little disturbing but I'll forgive it for the fact that Octavia Spencer is in this movie and has like 4 lines, and the absolutely awesome Beach Boys soundtrack. LISTEN DO YOURSELF A FAVOR, IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN IT, GO WATCH THIS MOVIE. 

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